Surviving the Loss of a Loved One in Elephant Journal

My elephant journal article

My article!

Dear Blog Friends,

I’m thrilled to be in Elephant Journal with my article “Surviving the Holidays After the Death of a Loved One.”  Here’s the start:  “Since my husband George died in 2013, I get really depressed over the holidays. With him gone and having little family myself, things don’t look how they’re supposed to…”. The rest of it is here.

Please check it out.  Disclaimer:  this is a professionally edited, greatly improved version of my latest blog post.  But it’s a lot more helpful and relatable than the first one with more anecdotes and  no generalities.   For my writer friends, it is so interesting to see what an editor will change in our writing!

I would so appreciate views on this by your clicking on the link to the article!  (If I get enough views, it becomes easier to be on their site again).  Please share it with anyone you think it might resonate with.

This is such a hard time of year for those of us who’ve lost our spouses or other loved ones.  I get teary remembering the traditions that George and I had.  Hell, I get teary taking out the garbage (formerly George’s chore) alone on a Sunday night this time of year.  Other times of year, I’m much better about it.  It’s like much of my recovery just sort of ebbs away.

Is it like that for you too?

If you want to chat about this holiday malaise stuff, please  comment here or on the Elephant Journal site.  On some posts, people have offered such thoughtful, heartwarming comments that really helped others.  And please, check it out on Elephant Journal.

Love,

Debbie

 

 

 

2 Comments

  • Tim says:

    I know exactly how you feel. I was watching an innocuous Christmas film yesterday afternoon. Christmas with the Krankies! It was the scene where the elderly man and his wife were eating together on Christmas Eve and Mr Krankie walked over can gave them his tickets for a Caribbean trip. The wife was dealing with cancer (I assume) and I just started to cry. Silly I know.. but it is the small things that bring home the loss of my wife and make we wish to have our old life back. I do question myself if my inability to come to terms with losing Diane after 4 years is due to losing her when I was 45 years old or is this normal for anyone who loses a partner/ Spouse of any age. Either way.. it is very hard to rebuild ones life when these flashbacks continue.

    • Debbie says:

      It’ll be four years in April since I lost my George. I think these flashbacks, or sometimes just physical pulls of agony, are normal, but that’s just my experience and a little reading. Thank you for letting me know you get it. And the inability to rebuild a life might just mean that is what recovery is like. Take care.