Recognizing When You are Being Emotionally Abused (in Ravishly)

Woman looking beleaguered

Thank you Ravishly

It’s what I do. Get into embarrassing, sad situations and write about them publicly.


I never realized the depths to which loneliness could drag me. Thanks to the awesome editor at ”Ravishly,” here’s my story, polished and story-ish:

“Are you okay?” the man in the parking lot asked me. “What do you need?” The rest is here

Hey, since then I’ve met someone kind and wonderful. My next post may be about meeting his mom over Thanksgiving.

If you’re new to my blog: Sorry, I don’t just link to my published articles. Please check out my prior post about recognizing the signs of emotional abuse. And here’s last year’s take on surviving the holidays when you’ve suffered a loss: Widowhood and the Holidays. .  Also, you are grieving just perfectly.

Grateful to have company on my journey,

Love, Debbie


  • Jacqueline says:

    Another brave article, Debbie. I am so thankful to that man in the car park for making sure you were OK.

    • Debbie says:

      Thsnk you. Me too. I would have gotten home etc, but I wouldn’t have realized how wrong things were.

  • Tim says:

    Thank you for writing such an honest post about such a difficult and horribly common topic. Hopefully more voices will mean less repetition. Best wishes in all to come, whether it has another man or not.

    • Debbie says:

      Thank you Tim. That means a lot. Once I finally ended it, things got a lot better. I appreciate your sensitivity in recognizing that people, men and women, can be happy being on their own as an end in itself.