New Year on the Huffington Post

 

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Dear Blog Friends,

I have a new Huffington Post article.  I’m not on my main computer,  it took me this long to try posting from my IPad.

So, here’s my article.  New Year’s Eve Without my Husband

Once again, I am so grateful for the comments and messages I’ve received.   Happy New Year!!!❤️😜🔷🔔🎁

Let me know what you think.  I promise not to do an Easter, Arbor Day or Groundhog Day post on missing George.  I think.

 

Love,

Debbie

5 Comments

  • Kathryn says:

    Dear Debbie, I read your article on Huffington Post and feel you pretty much nailed it. It’s been 31 months for me. His was cancer too, and he was only 59. We were together 32 years as well. I got thru this Thanksgiving and Christmas okay, but had my ‘fail’ on Wed. Dec. 30th, when i stayed in my PJs and cried all day and night….which meant by last night, New Year’s Eve, I was exhausted and so went to bed early with a book, which I finished exactly at 12 midnight. Then I promptly rolled over and drifted off remembering nice times we’d had. And now I’m a year older, and feel no wiser. And yes, I keep busy in any meaningful ways. It’s just that when holidays roll around, my friends are with their families/husbands, and even though they may think to invite me, i won’t intrude on their time together. The hardest thing for me is knowing I’m no longer anyone’s special someone. Maybe, for this same time next year, I’ll plan an out of town trip just to see how that goes.

    • Debbie says:

      Dear Kathryn, I am so sorry for your loss. I can really relate to what you said. I’ve thought about trying Christmas away next year, but I’m worried I’d get sad by myself with no plans.

      It is hard to venture out to gatherings when most folks are married. I think I dated excessively so I would feel special. I have no solutions. I have a boyfriend but it doesn’t take the place of a marriage. I hope you have a wonderful New Year.

      Stay in touch if you want,
      Debbie

  • Kathryn says:

    Thank you, Debbie, so far, I have driven and flown to visit with friends and family, but don’t think I’m brave enough to travel totally alone just yet, so am on the lookout for a friend, or two, who wishes to discover some new territory. Emotionally, I feel like I’ve been on a wild roller coaster ride….with a little too many ups and downs. May this New Year be a ‘smooth’ one for you, and also wonderful in many ways..

    • Debbie says:

      Funny I was recently contacted by a married woman I’d known but lost touch with. Now divorced, she wants a girlfriend to hang out with and maybe travel with a bit. Happy 2016! (And if you’re in the SF Bay Area…)

  • Kathryn says:

    What fun! I do travel to the Bay Area on occasion but live in the middle of the country (actually, my husband and I were in SF when his first cancer symptoms showed up in the Spring of 2012) . I grew up in South Florida, taught Art in East Africa (we married at the foot of Mt. Kilimanjaro and then went on a honeymoon safari), and we traveled around the world (mostly in Asia) and in all but two US states. ..but there are places I’d still like to see, or even see again.. I’m an artist, give Reiki, as a volunteer, at a Healing Space, and I’m progressive politically. Plus, I was a little bit older than my husband. I think you have my email, Debbie, so you have my permission to pass it on to her, if you want or can do that. Thanks!