Caregiver Guilt: My Second xojane Article


caregiver guilt

dark times

My second xojane article.  And my second xojane article is up.  It is dark.  It’s about caregiver guilt when I was caring for George.  Please check it out and, if it resonates with you, please share.  One of my themes, sadly enough, is awareness of male breast cancer.




  • Dan says:

    Your xojane article is dark but beautiful. I lost my wife when she was about the same age as George and after about the same length of marriage, and I have similar regrets. I hope that sharing your experiences will help you find closure and healing.

    I am struck that you had to request passwords from George to access your accounts. This suggests that he was overly controlling and that his denial was fueled in part by his progressive loss of control over his destiny. Forgive me for saying this, but a spouse should never have to request access to shared family resources. They should be an equal partner.

    My very best wishes to you. I look forward to following your journey.

    • Debbie says:

      Sharing my experience has proved healing. The compassionate responses I have gotten have been wonderful. I am so sorry about the loss of your wife. And the way Grorge had things set up was bad in retrospect. But we kept our finances separate to some degree, so I had separate cards and accounts too. Good points though!