A Widow’s Galentine in Modern Loss

A tribe helps a widow cope with loss

My Yoga Tribe

I am thrilled and grateful to have my Valentine’s Day post in Modern Loss, an online journal I’ve always wanted to be in. It’s called “A Widow’s Galentine to her Girlfriends.” It’s about how I found my tribe doing flow yoga: “At over 50, I have my first tribe, and that has made all the difference.”

Now,  let’s read the whole thing—ok, get a glass of wine first, maybe a few heart-shaped chocolates—right here.

Let me know what you think!  Are your experiences similar?

Love and Happy Galentine’s, or if you prefer, National Singles Awareness Day,




  • Gus says:

    As a recent widower I have read your posts with great interest. I’m fortunate to have met a recent widow and we seem to be on a path to long term happiness. She has had similar dating experiences to you and had pretty much given up when we met. I was a little more recent but had recognized the bar scene wasn’t doing it. I can’t believe how bad the pool of guys out there are!! Maybe I am the exception to the rule, but I treat everyone with honesty and respect.
    Enough for now,

    • Debbie says:

      Congratulations on finding someone special! I’m glad I’m not alone is having problems with the pool of guys, at least online. You may be the exception or at least a rarity. Thank you so much for writing in with a guy’s perspective.

  • Betsy says:

    Oh my gosh, I left a comment but not here. I wonder where it went?

    • Debbie says:

      The other comments today are coming through so I don’t think its the site (this time!), but technology can be randomly evil.

  • Gilbert says:

    Hi Debbie, I enjoyed your latest article and excited to know you have a tribe. It was my tribe or ryu who have been with me since my wife passed. My ryu is a tight collection of martial artist who meet five days a week to train. I have been with my bothers and sisters for over ten years and we have supported each other through life threatening injuries, weddings, babies and in my case the loss of a spouse. It was my very good friend, mentor and teacher who I called for help when my wife was dying. He drove across town and stood with me and my sons when she passed. Yes, a tribe, family or ryu is vitally important to help make it through the dark days. Please don’t take offense but I’m very proud of you. Thank you for letting us peek into your life.

    • Debbie says:

      Thank you Gilbert for the kind and encouraging words. I’m glad you have a tribe too. Take care my friend.