My boyfriend and I posing as old Western characters

5 Reasons why Older Single Women Give up on Men

Last time I hung out with my girlfriends, the talk turned to why we have a better time hanging out with each other than with the guys we’re dating. Several … Continue Reading →


Debbie in a policeman's hat

Eight Red Flags to Spot When You’re Dating

  I’m an ex-online dating addict.  For a while, I was terribly social until I discovered binge-watching.  Here are seven red flags that cropped up when I was dating.  Sometimes, … Continue Reading →


Home office decor

My New Year’s Post: 8 Things I Learned While Widowing

  I learned a lot this year.  It just doesn’t feel like it because translating “what I’ve learned” into “things I’ve accomplished” feels really disconnected.  But for the fist year … Continue Reading →


Caste of body from Pompei

6 Ways to Swim in the Adult Dating Cesspool (and One Work Around)

  My last dating post was about how many people think of adult dating as dumpster diving.  Sadly enough, most women agreed with me.  But some men didn’t!  A few … Continue Reading →


Painting I did at workshop

Getting through Grief with Humor, Honesty and Time

I’m taking an online blogging class.  My assignment: a post on why I blog. This is who I am.  I just updated it because in the three and a half years … Continue Reading →


My elephant journal article

Surviving the Loss of a Loved One in Elephant Journal

Dear Blog Friends, I’m thrilled to be in Elephant Journal with my article “Surviving the Holidays After the Death of a Loved One.”  Here’s the start:  “Since my husband George … Continue Reading →


Coping with Widowhood over the Holidays

Dear  Friends, It is again the holiday season.  And it is so fucked.  End of post. I jest. I think the holidays look terrible to us sometimes because they don’t … Continue Reading →


Returning from Sorrento: 6 Things I Learned

      I went to the Amalfi Coast in Italy with a UC Berkeley Alumni tour group.  I met them at the airport in Naples.  It’s the most alone … Continue Reading →


Is Adult Dating Just an Exercise in Dumpster Diving?

    This quote really resonated with the women, especially the single ones, at a recent women’s only yoga retreat. Dating as dumpster diving. Do men feel the same way … Continue Reading →


The G-Word: Attempting Gratitude

I’ve been thinking about gratitude lately.  Almost involuntarily.  I’ve been wondering, is gratitude a prerequisite to living well? I just came back from a short vacation to Lake Tahoe.  And … Continue Reading →